Ok, so your parents are after your life to tie the knot. How do you know if you are upto it? Has the right time come? Why should you marry? What are the pros and what are the cons?

Of all these questions, the most nagging might be: why should I stay married to one particular person. While philosophers keep ranting about the agent of change – “Change is the only constant thing in life”, nobody accepts that spouse change is normal! Is it really okay to be married to the same person for life?

Lets talk about arranged marriages, When a match is made, the parties involved usually do not know about each other. It is nearly almost like living with a curious stranger. It definitely takes a lot of time to understand this supposedly better half of yours. How long would you take to “adjust” to your spouse? Isn’t all that time just a waste of your precious youth and a lifetime? Is marriage a good idea at all? If marrying itself is such a question mark, aren’t you taking a gamble by staying in that marriage?

Is marriage only about being surrounded by your relatives? Isn’t having children a responsibility that you would rather not take?

To answer all these questions, lets talk more about this institution called marriage. Yes, it is holy, it is sacred, we have heard all that from our parents and grand parents, but what does it mean to you??? Remember, you are the one who is going to live in the marriage and not the words of your well-meaning elders.

All that said; I have to agree that it is definitely nice to have a person whom you can trust, TOTALLY. Someone who likes you enough to love, care and trust you too. This person is going to be your confidant throughout your life. He/she will be the strength in your weakness and your consolation in times of trouble.

We all definitely have a lot of friends, who will be more than willing to help you in needs. But can you count on them always? It is not fair of you to pull in your friends to solve all your problems. By doing that, you are demanding your friends to live your life. I am sure that they will have their own busy lives to live. Your spouse does not fall in that bracket. He/she has to live a part of your life, and that’s why they are called life partners!

In all the tests of the time, you know that your teammate will always be there to support you. Your partner is sure to pull you out of whatever ditch of issues you are in. Knowing this, feeling the security, is your incentive in marriage.